Want to Jack Up Your Progress? Then Take This Note: The Fuel is This Version of Self-Love.

On Self-Love - Life Coach Teresa Young

I happened onto the hashtag #selflove on Twitter last night, and I was curious about how it was being used So I checked out the definition someone had given it on tagdef.com.

Could have several empowering meanings, but is often used as a politically correct term for solo masturbation.

Basically, I’m not buyin’ it

Interesting, and maybe useful to some. But way off base in my view. Honestly, it confused me a bit. Just not at all what I expected. So I looked up self-love on dictionary.com. Check out this depressing definition:

1.  the instinct by which one’s actions are directed to the promotion of one’s own welfare or well-being, especially an excessive regard for one’s own advantage [italics mine].
2.  conceit; vanity.
3.  narcissism.


Yikes. That’s harsh! Especially since we tend to be in constant overdrive these days. But then I realized, I’m just not buyin’ this. In fact, I think it needs a 21st century reboot.

So what’s a self-loving woman to do?

In short, I just took matters into my own hands. :)

I went back to tagdef.com, entered #selflove, and added my own definition:

Self-love: a healthy, positive sense of self that creates resulting habits of self-nurturance and self-care, rather than waiting for someone or something outside us to deem us lovable and to care for us.

Example Usage:
“Self-love creates a healthy foundation for empowered choices.”


To be sure, I could have worked on that a bit more before I hit “done.” But so be it. It’s there now. I hope it’ll be helpful to someone, somewhere, sometime.

Because I say self-love is essential in our action-packed lives. In our lives of service to family and community. Our lives jammed with productivity.

Self-love makes a difference

I say we’re wise to take amazing care of ourselves in the midst of whatever we’re up to in the world. I say self-love creates fertile soil. From there everything we want to be, do, and contribute can blossom and grow.

So I say go get ’em from a foundation of self-love, my dears. And more, keep coming back to the place of balance that self-love demands.

The fact is, we can’t go entirely off the deep end while we’ve also got to get on to a nutritious meal. A good night’s sleep. And all the other healthy parts of our self-care lists.

All things in their own time and place, right? Are you with me on this? Good. Because I’ve got to get some rest!



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Teresa Young wants you living your dream, for real. She coaches by phone, in person in Los Angeles, and via Skype outside the U.S.