In Thanking All Our Veterans Today, Simply This:

Life Coaching with Teresa Young - In Thanks to All Our Veterans

In thanking veterans, the truth is that such quiet greatness, such discipline, such sacrifice, in lives during and beyond years of service, defy words that can do any justice to them. With that truth acknowledged, I can also acknowledge my own eternal gratitude. My eternal admiration and awe. Though I do understand the discomfort many veterans feel receiving it.

So how beautiful that, as I walked in from the parking lot of my neighborhood grocery store yesterday, wondering what the group of guys wearing chef’s aprons at the table outside were selling, I was thrilled to find they were doing a food drive for student veterans at a nearby college. The goal was to stock an on-campus pantry so no one goes hungry during finals. Such a small way to help. Yet so wonderful.

I took their list into the store, found my way around to fill a basket of items for them, and noticed several other obviously energized folks doing the same. The cashier seemed uplifted, too. Later, in my regular FaceTime call with my 84-year-old father, I shared my unexpected elation. We both shed some tears.

What’s more, in thanking veterans today, my gratitude extends to whole families and communities in which such unsung service is a way of life. Thank you. May peace be with you. And best wishes for all the beauty and goodness you and yours deserve in this life—and beyond.

 

 

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My New Crush: The Work of Dr. Joe Dispenza, Part 2 – Essential Concepts

Dr. Joe Dispenza

As a busy life coach always working to keep my own head on straight, the well-validated work of Dr. Joe Dispenza inspires and energizes me big-time. In fact, I say he’s doing some of the most important teaching on the planet these days. It’s changing me and my work with my coaching clients.

So while encouraging my clients to read his books, download his meditations, and more, I also wrote Part 1 of my own introduction to his work. Then I let Part 2 steep a bit while diving deep into his concepts and methods. My goal here is boil all that down to what’s most essential for you to get in this transformative personal power game! If you’re brand new to him, I encourage you to start with Part 1, then meet me back here.

Now, as you read on, truly give yourself permission to hang in here with me. This work requires a new kind of mental discipline. You can put a toe in that world by experimenting with real focus and attention here. Seriously. Consider it a playful challenge from me to beautiful you.

First a recap: what does “you are the placebo” mean?

In my words, from Part 1:

The fact that the placebo effect happens to some humans means we can learn to use it.

The placebo effect occurs because we—our hearts and minds and beliefs—are that powerful. Though maybe not naturally. Maybe not without steady work and real changes to beliefs and habits. To patterns and resulting cycles in our lives.

In fact, I regard Dr. Dispenza’s work so highly because he has mastered the how of this effect. How to apply it in our own lives. I’d say the “how” of personal transformation is his super-power. And he wants all of us in on the transformative action.

So now (drum roll)… let’s get to it.

Meditation is key

Susan’s testimonial is one of hundreds on YouTube. A straight-talking, 72 year-old woman is standing on stage, with Dr. Dispenza seated on a stool across from her. Her story starts with You Are the Placebo arriving in the mail for some reason. She hadn’t ordered it.

She says she quickly thumbed through it before planning to put it on her recycle pile. But then the word Parkinsons popped out. This got her attention. Because she has it.

So she read the whole book. And she started meditating, about three times a week at that point. She expected little, but noticed three things in quick succession:

  1.  While out in her yard one day, she smelled freshly mown grass. Her olfactory sense was returning.
  2.  Then she absentmindedly slipped on both shoes while standing. She hadn’t been able to do this for some time because one foot had become unresponsive.
  3.  And while showing a friend her bad hand’s involuntary curl, she realized it was functioning normally.

By the time she’s talking on stage with Dr. Dispenza in August 2018, she says she’s at 98% of her physical capability overall. And she never skips meditating. I laughed out loud watching her dance around and kick up her legs at the end of her testimonial.

Oh, and one more thing: Susan’s seminar experience had included a group healing the day before. A topic for another day. Maybe Part 3. :)

Note what you’re thinking right… now

As you take in Susan’s experience, is there a “split” in your view of what we’ll call the body/mind? Like the mind is one thing, and the body is something else entirely? With our minds as super-computers that drive our increasingly “used car” bodies around, while physician-mechanics try to maintain them?

And yet these days we know that stress affects our physical health. Right? We know that our mental health affects our bodies. That depression depresses the immune system.

On the flip side, we also know that premiere athletes and performers of all kinds use mental techniques to heighten physical performance. So stay with me here.

But meditating how, exactly?

First, know this: these meditation techniques are specific. Dr. Dispenza continues to hone them as his team of researchers and neuroscientists map the affects of meditation on more and more human brains and bodies. The fact is, they’re tracking the successes of his seminar participants all over the world.

I’m struck in particular by one aspect of his technique that I’ll try to describe. Otherwise it may be a bit of a head-scratcher when you first sit for one of his guided meditations.

Inner ‘space’, toward inner calm

Because Dr. Dispenza uses the word space in two ways that pop up right away. In his first use of space, it seems to me that he invites us into a sensory experience. He directs us to be aware of internal space. Space inside our bodies.

Examples include the space between our ears. The space within the throat. Or within the heart center. These are specific points of focus that I think of as micro.

Notice how this differs from working to stop our thoughts, an approach that causes many of us to declare that we just can’t meditate because of our busy minds. Instead… eureka! He directs our busy minds, and very, very specifically.

And on out to ‘outer’ space

In any meditation, Dr. Dispenza then guides us to experience what I think of as a macro focus. The space around the body. The space within the room. And all the way out into the universe.

Evidently, thousands of brain scans show that this switch from internal to external awareness calms brainwave patterns, the central nervous system, and ultimately the body/mind. This shifting focus, from inner to outer and back, teases our minds out of their regular feedback loops of familiar thoughts, feelings, beliefs, expectations, and more. Which prepares us for, well, literally no-thing.

Heading ‘nowhere’

Whaaaaat?, you may be saying. But hang tight. This is so good.

Dr. Dispenza describes this state as getting to “nowhere, no time, nothing, and nobody.” Beyond the bio-chemicals that our body/minds constantly generate based on the past, our old thoughts, beliefs, and experiences.

Because all this familiarity is how we end up in static phases in which our past continues to create our future, and nothing new ever really happens. Or worse: depression and/or disease set in.

In contrast:

In Dr. Dispenza’s work, that transcendent state—beyond all that’s so familiar that we come to associate with ourselves—activates neural processes that bathe the body/mind in healing, re-generating bio-chemicals and electromagnetic currents. These natural elixirs and energetic frequencies promote healthy changes and positive, even transformative, developments.

And I know that’s a lot to take in. Read the bold sentence above again.

Dr. Joe often notes that in his own daily meditations, he doesn’t get up until he reaches a markedly different state than he was in when he sat down. In my view, he means:

  • mentally relaxed, with the brain and nervous system calm
  • emotionally uplifted, which we’ll get into next
  • physically energized from this calm, uplifted experience

This heightened state then sets the stage for the unexpected in terms of inner—and outer—results.

Now. Ready to get down to the core of all this deliciousness?

And on to elevated emotions

Oh, how I love this part! There’s some elevated emotion for you. :) In fact, I believe this concept is the key to transforming our lives with less rather than more effort.

This part of Dr. Joe’s approach seems to me closely aligned with Gregg Braden’s visionary work, which allows me to grasp it in a way that may take time for some folks to get. At least it took time for me.

In truth, I often felt, while trying to understand Gregg’s key ideas, that I would get this one for a second, just to feel it slip through my fingers the next. Through my thinking mind.

So take your time here. This is a very different way of creating change than we’re accustomed to in our rational modern lives.

Now, imagine yourself feeling fantastic. And I do mean emotionally right now, rather than physically. What’s the feeling? As another way to access the idea of elevated emotion, what’s the feeling as you imagine accomplishing what you want most?

A list of elevated emotions follows. Take a moment to really take them in.

Abundance
Acceptance
Appreciation
Awe
Benevolence
Clarity
Compassion
Connection
Courage
Empowerment
Forgiveness
Gratitude
Inner Peace
Inspiration
Kindness
Joy
Invincibility
Liberation
Limitless energy
Love
Passion
Strength
Surrender
Trust
Unity

And down into this power principle

Long story short, achieving and maintaining an elevated emotional state during and beyond meditation changes our body/minds, and thus our lives.

From reading and listening to Gregg Braden’s fundamental ideas since 2014, and now studying this aspect of the work of Dr. Dispenza, I finally really got this key idea. So I’ll state it again in more detail as I’ve come to understand and practice it. And now I’ll fold in the impact that religion has had on many of us so far:

Mainstream religious traditions in the western world include a central error, at least in common practice. One that our increasing access to knowledge of indigenous cultures and ancient spiritual practices is helping us to correct. Because we in the west—and really think about this as you read—tend to consider the words we speak in prayer the actual prayer.

While, in fact, if you’re looking for real results, the feeling is the prayer. The feeling is the point. Elevated emotion infuses our body/minds with an elixir of regenerating bio-chemicals and electromagnetic energy that literally re-charges us, fueling the internal fire with which we pursue our goals.

Wow. Game-changer!!

Unconditional power

In fact, the most important act of power we can take on is to maintain elevated emotional states, living and working and pursuing our goals within them. Not allowing our emotional states to be conditional. Not operating from an “I’ll feel good someday when…” way of moving through life in which we believe all will be wonderful once—after—this or that occurs. That’s backwards.

Again, eureka! The. Feeling. Comes. First.

The feeling generates power. It generates results, through the actions we’re then inspired and energized to take. Delicious! Right?!

Pause here. Reflect on that. It’s an approach that takes real time and exploration to hold onto. Because we’ve all been taught and trained by individuals, organizations, and institutions around us to “do life” very, very differently.

Then welcome yourself to a whole new level of personal effectiveness.  Welcome to your new superpower to create and enjoy the wild, wonderful journey of your precious life!

The work of Dr. Joe Dispenza, with feeling :)

It may be hard to believe, but there is so much more I could explore here of Dr. Dispenza’s truly revolutionary work. Instead, I’ll pass the baton to you. I heartily encourage you to dive into this delicious, potentially transformative mode of being, thinking, feeling, and taking action. After all, why not, right? As you live your dream. For real.

Teresa Young

 

In Painful Times, Stay Strong with Non-Judgment

Try Non-Judgment - Life Coaching with Teresa Young

We all experience challenging, painful, even heartbreaking moments. They’ve been part of life’s journey since, well, forever.

Cut to these days, and we’re all increasingly connected through our smart devices. Indeed, besides whatever complexities we may be managing, troubling news and even horrific developments can come at us 24 and 7. And at times, they do.

It’s a constant onslaught to process. To feel our way through, in ways that can drain us energetically.

So consider this potential energy conservation method: In the midst of everything we can’t control, the ancient discipline of non-judgment can aid us. It can soothe us. Then we can pass some peace forward.

First, limit the onslaught. Really.

My dear friend Kim, an amazing attorney and child advocate, doesn’t “do the news.” She’s disciplined about it. Her determination to live and work in a radically calm zone allows her to stay healthy for her own intense work in the world. For her unique contribution.

And of course Kim’s approach works for her. For her life and work.

The truth is, we each have to find our own threshold for taking in tragic, terrible—even terrifying—news. If we stick with default mode in these wired times, any and all troubling developments immediately arrive as notifications in our lives.

The good news is that there’s middle ground between disconnected and hyper-connected. These days, choosing our place along that continuum requires conscious decision-making, and discipline.

We can take time and give ourselves permission to craft our own approach, our own boundaries, toward relative peace of mind and productivity. Because the world needs the unique contribution we’re each here to make.

Yes, we’re each part of the continuing evolution of our species at a critical juncture. Pause for a moment here. Take that in.

Now limit the judgments you form. Really.

Coaches know that non-judgment is an essential tool in our work. We practice it to avoid laying the templates of our personal values and opinions on the unique humans we’re privileged to serve. Those templates, our particular filters for living our own lives, could keep us from actually hearing and seeing and getting who others are.

So the truth is that we can also practice non-judgment when the news is especially tough. And let me be clear: The point of non-judgment isn’t saintliness. Non-judgment isn’t about letting perpetrators off the hook.

The point is our own mental and emotional health and productivity during gut-wrenching times. As we keep our own energy flowing, as we stay focused on our missions and goals, we help keep everyone moving forward. It’s in fact a critical contribution.

And of course some of us contribute by being on the front lines of tragic or terrifying situations in utterly necessary ways. Thank you. Bless you.

Also, honestly, there are people in our lives, or looming large on our smart devices, whose choices and actions don’t work for us. We may not be able to relate to where they’re coming from. To what they do, or with whom they sympathize.

Of course the truth is also that we only know what we know. What we think and feel. The truth is, it takes real time, patience, and due diligence to understand the motivations—conscious and unconscious—of another.

 

Forces beyond your control can
take away everything you possess
except one thing, your freedom to
choose how you will respond
to the situation.
— Victor Frankl

Reflect in “empty” space, with compassion.

As observers of current events from local to global, how can we grapple with what’s terrible in empty space, rather than filling it with all our assumptions, or our fears? This is space for our fellow humans to be the complex central characters in their own poignant, perhaps tragic life stories.

Can we avoid judgments that fill in the blanks with our beliefs, interests, and values? Can we accept the fact that we can’t really know the reasons for the struggles or failures or darkness of others?

In fact, I believe we can compassionately witness troubling, even catastrophic events with as much heart and soul as we can muster. And further, we can benefit from the sense of control this particular form of self-discipline gives us. Because the reality is that non-judgment is freeing.

Seek and find whatever meaning sustains you.

Is anyone else thinking of Viktor Frankl in this moment? A 20th century psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, he made major contributions to our understanding of the human spirit through writing about our fundamental human freedom to find our own meaning in anything.

Because he learned and then shared that we can choose—even in the most dire circumstance, a Nazi death camp—to motivate ourselves. To find meaning in pain. And to carry on. Bottom line, Frankl’s most creative contribution to humankind came directly from his own most intense period of suffering.

Repeat as needed.

In your own approach to painful times, try non-judgment. Feel it all, and protect your personal boundaries. Guard your energy and your goals. And more, practice extraordinary self-care. Yes, put on your own oxygen mask, and keep doing so as needed, toward everything you intend to accomplish.

And as you feel it all, if you feel derailed by what you’re feeling, reach out for support. You deserve it. After all, the world needs the unique something that you’re here to contribute.

 

My New Crush: The Work of Dr. Joe Dispenza, Part 1 – Introduction

You Are the Placebo - Life Coach Teresa Young explores Dr. Joe Dispenza's work

Anybody who works with me knows I’m fascinated by the brain. By how it works, and how to train it. So it makes sense that I would eventually find the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza.

Dr. Dispenza’s name popped up in my YouTube feed sometime in 2018, while my family was in the midst of some intense challenges. And I was instantly intrigued. For one thing, I’ve long been a fan of his colleague Gregg Braden‘s work at the crossroads of science and spirituality, and of his colleague Bruce Lipton’s important contributions to the new science of epigenetics.

Then I saw the title of Dr. Dispenza’s second book, You Are the Placebo. And boom! Lightning-strike. I had to get down into it and find out exactly what he’s up to.

Because I’ve always wondered why we humans have been so casual about the placebo effect. For example, check out this definition on merriam-webster.com:

placebo

1a.    A usually pharmacologically inert preparation prescribed more for the mental relief of the patient than for its actual effect on a disorder

1b.    An inert or innocuous substance used especially in controlled experiments testing the efficacy of another substance (such as a drug)

2.      Something tending to soothe

 

Really? A big piece of info is missing there. Because during drug trials in pharmaceutical research, a placebo always affects a statistically significant percentage of participants like an actual drug would. Again, and really think about this: the placebo has the effect on some folks that they expect the drug to have.

Whoa. Tell me that isn’t fascinating!

And what does it mean? And how can we humans harness whatever that’s about? Cut to the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza.

But first, let’s go back to merriam-webster.com:

placebo effect

Improvement in the condition of a patient that occurs in response to treatment but cannot be considered due to the specific treatment used

 

That’s more on point, right? Now what does Dr. Dispenza have to say on the subject?

The following is a fantastic intro to his use of the placebo effect from an interview with Brian Rose of London Real. It will take seven minutes of your time. Then meet me back here. For real. :)

 

The best part: why this matters to you and me

If you heard that interview, the thinkers among you already get it, at least conceptually. For folks who function more on instinct or feeling, consider this: the fact that the placebo effect happens to some humans means we can learn to use it.

The placebo effect occurs because we—our hearts and minds and beliefs—are that powerful. Though maybe not naturally. Maybe not without steady work and real changes to beliefs and habits. To patterns and resulting cycles in our lives.

In fact, I regard Dr. Dispenza’s work so highly because he has mastered the how of this effect. How to apply it in our own lives.

How, indeed:  his story

And yes, as is often the case with important innovators, Dr. Dispenza broke through to exciting new ground in terms of his own beliefs—and resulting possibilities—through a personal crisis. Because in 1986, as a young chiropractor living and working in L.A., he was hit by an SUV while biking in a triathlon in Palm Springs.

He wound up face down in traction with six crushed vertebrae. Several surgeons said he needed steel rods inserted down the length of his spine to ever, possibly, walk again. You can hear his story in his own words here.

But the bottom line is that he couldn’t bring himself to do it. Over the course of three months, since he had nothing to do but lie there anyway, he worked on his own shattered back. And long story short, he healed and resumed his life.

Ready for what may feel even more “woowoo” to you?

And here’s where the story may really test the boundaries of your beliefs: Dr. Dispenza worked on his back through meditation, visualization, and what I’ll call prayer. I’m not sure he would use that word.

Because one thing “Dr. Joe” says repeatedly is that science is the new spirituality. Quantum physics brought everything together over the past fifty years or more in ways that are just now trickling down to us regular folks.

So he steers clear of language that may alienate people for varying reasons. And his team of researchers and neuroscientists constantly document the startling results his advanced seminar participants are getting all over the world.

Now, before you say, whoa, too weird, I’m out, remember the placebo effect. In my own words:

 

Dr. Dispenza’s groundbreaking work with the placebo effect shows that, using belief in a possibility, focused attention, and elevated emotion, we can achieve an energetic dynamic that creates the results we want.

 

For three decades, Dr. Joe Dispenza has been learning how to apply what he learned in his own extreme life circumstance to the lives of others. These days he and his team are working and taking data all over the globe. Which means, in this age of instant information, all that goodness is available to us.

To be continued

So I’ll end Part 1 with this link to a longer interview with Dr. Dispenza on his revolutionary work. Next, in Part 2, I break down some essential concepts that may be a lot to take in initially. I recommend reading it, especially if you’re attracted to diving into his meditation techniques before you read or hear him directly.

After all, why not get busy on these power principles toward achieving your own beautiful goals? As you truly live your dream. For real.

Teresa Young