Tragedy Makes Us Reflect. It Makes Us Feel. Then We Keep Moving Forward. It’s What We Do.

Tragedy Makes Us Feel - Life Coach Teresa Young

While we were all in shock after the tragedy in Thousands Oaks, California, two more California tragedies, the Camp Fire and the Woolsey Fire, flared. And here we are now, our shock even more profound.

Just back from Panama City, Florida and Hurricane Michael’s devastation, I’m a few weeks into grieving another tragic experience for a community, this time my hometown. This time my loved ones.

So I feel like sharing a bit of what I’m reflecting on right now.

These stories of tragedy are just beginning.

As any stories of tragedy fade from front page news, they’re really just beginning. The support that we can and want to give must continue.

It can come in so many ways, from the deeply personal and truly sacrificial—a shoulder to cry on, work or housing for displaced folks—to the simplest quiet acts. Like yes to a small donation in the grocery store. I had lunch with a friend today who said she gives directly to GoFundMe pages to make a fast impact.

Life is so beautiful.

I was struck over and over in Panama City by gorgeous days, shimmering blue skies and silken breezes as the backdrop to weather-related tragedy all around us. It was surreal.

And I say that taking the time for all those thoughts and feelings, rather than shutting them down, is an important part of finding our way through devastating experiences. Take some real time to reflect. Take time to feel. Everything else that seems so urgent will still be there.

In the process, in the wise words of the Dalai Lama, reflect on your own strength to carry on. On everything your own life is about. Everything you hope for.

The point is to care for yourself toward helping those around you. Your oxygen mask comes first.

 

When we meet real tragedy in life,
we can react in two ways—either by
losing hope and falling into
self-destructive
habits, or by using
the challenge to find our inner strength.

—Dalai Lama XIV

Don’t sugarcoat. Do offer hope. And rest.

If you’re connected to anybody directly impacted by these tragedies, do empathize. And do remember to also offer encouragement. To offer hope. Your words may make a difference that you’ll never know.

Trust your instincts as you find ways to help that don’t sugarcoat what is in fact tragic, but that do align with our very human activity of carrying on. It’s what we do. We keep going.

And on dark nights, in dark times, we need rest. We all need rest. There will be days and nights when we’ll get it, days and nights when we won’t. But keep giving yourself permission for it. For that oxygen mask. Nourish yourself toward nourishing others.

As you keep your own little light burning, even in the face of tragedy, it can help brighten the way forward for others. For all of us.

 

What is Life Coaching Anyway, You Say? Let’s Start With What You Do Know.

What Is Life Coaching? - Life Coaching with Teresa Young

To get to what life coaching really is, let’s begin at the beginning. As in, what is coaching? Well, think football. Basketball. Golf. The Olympics.

Got it instantly, right? Now. Can you picture sports teams—or their star players—bringing their best to the game at hand without their coaches?

Next, widen that view to me and you. Because life has been changing lightning fast since the late 20th century. And never more so than now.

More and more we understand so much that we once had little awareness of, like the connection between stress and health. Between visualizing and achieving. We get the relationship between the ways we “do life” and what we get done.

What coaching isn’t

By the way, coaching isn’t therapy, another important resource. Coaching is present- and future-based. Coaching is about achieving goals rather than processing and healing.

The golf pro expects to get to the next level with his swing through coaching. Coaching is results-driven.

And to be crystal clear, I’m not saying that therapy doesn’t promote growth. It absolutely does! And the fact is, accomplishing what we want most is the specific, razor-sharp point of being coached.

Also, coaches know you can’t just put icing on whatever is there and call it cake. To say it another way, positive thinking isn’t a game changer. Coaching is inspirational. But it’s also so much more.

 

Life has been changing lightning-fast
since the late 20th century.
And never more so than now.

How about client-centered partnership?

I say coaching is a client-centered partnership that supports focused folks in bringing their own wisdom, intelligence, skills, energy and desire to achieving their goals. One step at a time.

And when we think of athletics again, we also know that coaching has been around for a long, long time. Expert, goal-driven support is nothing new. The first written records of the Olympic Games were in 776 BC!

So, what is life coaching?

Fast forward to these days, and life coaching. First, it isn’t just for the rare, chosen few. After all, we’re more free than ever in this amazing age to pursue our dreams.

Now think for a moment about the connections between these parts of ourselves and our lives:

1.  Current habits, beliefs, and dreams
2.  Past experiences, and what we tend to make them mean
3.  Current clarity about inspiring professional and personal goals
4.  Healthy support systems, or lack thereof
5.  Current capability to follow through on goals to successful completion
6.  Current capacity for creating balance in the midst of it all
7.  Life’s ever-morphing challenges and opportunities

 

Coaching is inspirational,
results-driven, and not just
for the chosen few.

 

Clearly we’re each a mix of histories and experiences that affect the way our lives unfold. We have gifts, abilities, and tendencies. Stories we tell ourselves. Fears. What we think we can do, or deserve.

In the approach that I say makes the difference, life coaching is a holistic, big-picture process. It gets to the core of what our largest selves really want, and how—given who we each uniquely, actually are—to get there.

The nitty-gritty

For more of what life coaching is, think consistent, energetic support. Active listening. Empowering questioning and dialogue. Action planning. Championing. And holding clients accountable to act on what matters most to them! Also, deliciously, this creative partnership is about acknowledging and celebrating all kinds of small and large successes along the way.

Repeat as needed. :)

What’s more, coaches help clients uncover and wrestle to the ground whatever bugaboos come up and get in the way. After all, that’s just human. It’s another reason expert support matters as you do the work toward real forward movement.

Just like star players run those drills. Like they get help correcting that swing or perfecting a free throw.

Now imagine your version of all that. Toward what you want your life to be about, all that you deserve to accomplish and contribute.

And reach out for more info if life coaching sounds like a fit for you. Then get ready for your MVP year!

Teresa Young

 

Re-Energize After the Holidays, Before the Busy-ness Begins All Over Again

Re-Energize After the Holidays - Life Coach Teresa Young

Time to re-energize after the holidays? It’s like needing a vacation from your vacation, right? Yikes. And, oh, this is such a real thing! The truth is, the holiday season that you just celebrated in whatever ways can be intense. Family, friends, gifts, rituals, messy people, neat freaks, old issues, new plot twists… it’s often, well, a lot. Whew.

And you no doubt did your part to try to make the season a beautiful one. This busy life coach can relate. For all the work/life balance we may seek to create, the holidays can tip the scale big-time. Time to tip it back toward a workable middle. Gotta re-energize.

Now, back in “ordinary time”, at work, at home, at school, you may be feeling just how much life force you expended in the process. As you set this important goal to truly re-energize after the holidays, it’s time for some smart strategies to put the zest back in your step while you prep to make the most of all the natural motivation that the New Year brings.

So check out these four simple strategies for re-grouping energetically toward a strong start this year:

  1. Build in some moments of down time. Really. Do it. Maybe we “over-did” during the holidays, not so much because this one and that one needed and expected it, but rather because we’re just accustomed to doing too much. So it’s time now to truly chill when possible. No next thing queued up 24 and 7. Time for self-care, and time to play. For real.

Read more here at liveleadplay.com.

Then, once re-energized, reflect on the healthy change any New Year can bring. And reach out for expert support. After all, you deserve the beautiful life you want and deserve.

Teresa Young

Are You a Leader? Yes. You Are. Now Be the Kind of Leader You Really Want to Be.

Are You a Leader - Life Coaching with Teresa Young

Ah, leadership. The word may seem overused these days, tossed around as the missing piece in any and all situations.

Or maybe in your mind it only applies to those suit-and-tie types in corner offices. But the fact is, these days we’re really all leaders of our own individual little bandwagons, trekking across the frontiers of 21st century life.

Because we know—or we’ve heard tell—that life is truly what we make of it now. There are so many possibilities. And so few certainties. Right? The old company man for 40 years game that our fathers or grandfathers played over the very long haul come hell or high water is, in fact, over.

These days our lives can and will change profoundly decade by decade, if not more often. Yep, my dears, we’d all be wise to consider ourselves leaders in the game of life that we’re each playing.

Leadership is us

So, in your personal or professional life, are you a water-cooler prophet? The kind of gal or guy that others want to hang out with and hear from during breaks in the action?

If so, are you busy inspiring them to be their best, toward what they want most, while doing that in your own approach? That’s leadership, my dears. Help people rise up. Build them up. No matter who or where you are.

In contrast, it can be easy to drag folks down with gossip. With tales of personal annoyances. With fears for the future or regrets about the past that anybody can relate to. But that stuff doesn’t help you—or all the people who enjoy you—have what you really want in life.

Then there’s that other scenario:

Are you the boss in the corner office, feeling isolated, stressed, or unfulfilled? Yearning for work/life balance that eludes you so far?

Read more at liveleadplay.com.

 

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