What is Life Coaching Anyway, You Say? Let’s Start With What You Do Know.

What Is Life Coaching? - Life Coaching with Teresa Young

To get to what life coaching really is, let’s begin at the beginning. As in, what is coaching? Well, think football. Basketball. Golf. The Olympics.

Got it instantly, right? Now. Can you picture sports teams—or their star players—bringing their best to the game at hand without their coaches?

Next, widen that view to me and you. Because life has been changing lightning fast since the late 20th century. And never more so than now.

More and more we understand so much that we once had little awareness of, like the connection between stress and health. Between visualizing and achieving. We get the relationship between the ways we “do life” and what we get done.

What coaching isn’t

By the way, coaching isn’t therapy, another important resource. Coaching is present- and future-based. Coaching is about achieving goals rather than processing and healing.

The golf pro expects to get to the next level with his swing through coaching. Coaching is results-driven.

And to be crystal clear, I’m not saying that therapy doesn’t promote growth. It absolutely does! And the fact is, accomplishing what we want most is the specific, razor-sharp point of being coached.

Also, coaches know you can’t just put icing on whatever is there and call it cake. To say it another way, positive thinking isn’t a game changer. Coaching is inspirational. But it’s also so much more.

 

Life has been changing lightning-fast
since the late 20th century.
And never more so than now.

How about client-centered partnership?

I say coaching is a client-centered partnership that supports focused folks in bringing their own wisdom, intelligence, skills, energy and desire to achieving their goals. One step at a time.

And when we think of athletics again, we also know that coaching has been around for a long, long time. Expert, goal-driven support is nothing new. The first written records of the Olympic Games were in 776 BC!

So, what is life coaching?

Fast forward to these days, and life coaching. First, it isn’t just for the rare, chosen few. After all, we’re more free than ever in this amazing age to pursue our dreams.

Now think for a moment about the connections between these parts of ourselves and our lives:

1.  Current habits, beliefs, and dreams
2.  Past experiences, and what we tend to make them mean
3.  Current clarity about inspiring professional and personal goals
4.  Healthy support systems, or lack thereof
5.  Current capability to follow through on goals to successful completion
6.  Current capacity for creating balance in the midst of it all
7.  Life’s ever-morphing challenges and opportunities

 

Coaching is inspirational,
results-driven, and not just
for the chosen few.

 

Clearly we’re each a mix of histories and experiences that affect the way our lives unfold. We have gifts, abilities, and tendencies. Stories we tell ourselves. Fears. What we think we can do, or deserve.

In the approach that I say makes the difference, life coaching is a holistic, big-picture process. It gets to the core of what our largest selves really want, and how—given who we each uniquely, actually are—to get there.

The nitty-gritty

For more of what life coaching is, think consistent, energetic support. Active listening. Empowering questioning and dialogue. Action planning. Championing. And holding clients accountable to act on what matters most to them! Also, deliciously, this creative partnership is about acknowledging and celebrating all kinds of small and large successes along the way.

Repeat as needed. :)

What’s more, coaches help clients uncover and wrestle to the ground whatever bugaboos come up and get in the way. After all, that’s just human. It’s another reason expert support matters as you do the work toward real forward movement.

Just like star players run those drills. Like they get help correcting that swing or perfecting a free throw.

Now imagine your version of all that. Toward what you want your life to be about, all that you deserve to accomplish and contribute.

And reach out for more info if life coaching sounds like a fit for you. Then get ready for your MVP year!

Teresa Young

 

Live Your Dream Podcast Episode 4: Make a New Friend of Your Fear. Then Rock On.

My Live Your Dream for Real podcast episode 4 is now live. And it’s one for all ages, on that most human of experiences: fear! Can you relate? Yes you can. Right?

Check it out here, as you live your dream. For real.

OK, let’s talk fear

I received a great question, actually two, that I’ll share with you exactly as they came to me:

Do you feel that the fear one experiences contributes to the attraction of negative energy? If so, do you have any tips for overcoming or avoiding that situation?

One thing about this particular set of questions is that it’s from the amazing dad of a very creative 10 year-old girl. So my goal in this episode is to address these questions in a way that works for kids, AND of course for the child in all of us.

No Catch 22 allowed here

First, on that great question about fear contributing to the attraction of negative energy, I think it’s important to avoid the extra layer of fear that a belief like this could create! Talk about a negative loop, or a Catch 22 for us grownups, right? The truth is, fear is part of the human journey. It’s part of who we are.

In a novel I read a few months ago an early main character, a little girl who later became an author, started very early telling scary stories to all the kids in her life. Two generations later, another main character, the little girl’s grown granddaughter, went poking around learning about her grandmother, the “authoress.”

She was trying to answer the question of who she came from. And the elders who were still in that long-ago neighborhood, the little girl’s friends of that time, still remembered the scary stories she told, and how much they all loved them! Without a doubt life is like that, right?

Listen for more on an upbeat approach

For more on this topic, dive into my podcast episode 4. Then let me know if you have a question.

 

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Re-Energize After the Holidays, Before the Busy-ness Begins All Over Again

Re-Energize After the Holidays - Life Coach Teresa Young

Time to re-energize after the holidays? It’s like needing a vacation from your vacation, right? Yikes. And, oh, this is such a real thing! The truth is, the holiday season that you just celebrated in whatever ways can be intense. Family, friends, gifts, rituals, messy people, neat freaks, old issues, new plot twists… it’s often, well, a lot. Whew.

And you no doubt did your part to try to make the season a beautiful one. This busy life coach can relate. For all the work/life balance we may seek to create, the holidays can tip the scale big-time. Time to tip it back toward a workable middle. Gotta re-energize.

Now, back in “ordinary time”, at work, at home, at school, you may be feeling just how much life force you expended in the process. As you set this important goal to truly re-energize after the holidays, it’s time for some smart strategies to put the zest back in your step while you prep to make the most of all the natural motivation that the New Year brings.

So check out these four simple strategies for re-grouping energetically toward a strong start this year:

  1. Build in some moments of down time. Really. Do it. Maybe we “over-did” during the holidays, not so much because this one and that one needed and expected it, but rather because we’re just accustomed to doing too much. So it’s time now to truly chill when possible. No next thing queued up 24 and 7. Time for self-care, and time to play. For real.

Read more here at liveleadplay.com.

Then, once re-energized, reflect on the healthy change any New Year can bring. And reach out for expert support. After all, you deserve the beautiful life you want and deserve.

Teresa Young

Live Your Dream Podcast Episode 3: Who. You. Are. Not.

 

My podcast episode 3, Live Your Dream for Real, is live on iTunes, my dears. In this episode we’ll get down into the power of your thoughts as you live your dream, including, and especially: Who. You. Are. Not.

 

Who. You. Are… whaaaat?

In podcast episode 3, Who. You. Are. Not., we’ll build on that deeper truth that I mentioned in episode 2, beyond any kind of passive approach to life. In fact we’ll truly take responsibility for working toward what we want. Even more, toward living our dream. For real.

And today we’ll build on that foundational work of trusting in our lives and our creative processes. Because today our focus will go deep into your thoughts. And even deeper, to the power of your thoughts. And precisely to Who. You. Are. Not.

Make no mistake about it, this is very exciting stuff. Potentially life-changing truth for all of us. Think of everybody in your life who you love. And all the other talented humans who you may really want to collaborate with, to build something with, personally or professionally. When you do this inner work, its impact can reach way beyond you.

We are not, not, not our thoughts

Now. To the power of our thoughts, and Who. You. Are. Not. A big piece of learning for me that I constantly re-learn, not a one-time “aha” like the moment with that wise woman in Episode 1, is this: We, my dears, are not our thoughts. Please pause here.

Take a second to enjoy that sentence. Now think about it for a second more.

Because despite how seriously any thoughts take themselves, you are not whatever thoughts may or may not on any given day, in any given week or month or season, hinder you in living your dream. In fact, we are much bigger and deeper and potentially wiser and more powerful than the thoughts that tend to fill our time and steal our attention and ensnare our life force if we let them.

Walk this way toward what you want

So, on your path, getting very clear on the power of living this fundamental truth, that you are not your thoughts, isn’t stuff that’s separate from the pursuit of your goals. Quite the opposite: It is the work, until it stays with you—with us—like a loyal companion, ever ready to aid us in moments and in ways that we can count on, like trusting that the sun will rise and set, and the tide will come in and go out.

And yes, I’m always working on this, too. Because the truth is, it’s rigorous work. It’s powerful work. And it ultimately impacts everything else we’re working on.

With this in mind, sink your teeth into podcast episode 3, Who. You. Are. Not., for more on all this. After, please let me know if you have a question I can address in a future episode!